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Come Into My Kitchen: A Memoir Writing Retreat — June 2 - 5, 2016

I love how the particulars of an individual story illuminate universal truths. I love climbing behind someone else’s eyes to see the world in a wholly different way. I love falling in love with someone breathing right on the other side of the page. I love how we all laugh and grieve and screw up.

Yes, you. I don’t even know you (probably), but I already know I’ll love helping you tell your story. Because that’s my passion and it’s what I came here to do: to help people get heard. I love working with writers one on one, but I also love creating a supportive community. I want to gather folks around my kitchen table, put our heads together, and create something greater than the sum of our parts.

I want to help you share your stories with the world, no matter how big that world is.

Robert Johnson

Robert Johnson

Please click here while you read my offering, ’cause I’m all about the atmosphere. Also, why wouldn’t you want to listen to Robert Johnson?

What will this retreat do for you?
You will:

  • Identify the beloved reader for your story
    Clarify your goals for writing
  • Embrace the inevitable messiness of bringing your story to life through all its crappy drafts and give yourself permission to have it be a Big Ole Mess for as long as it takes
  • Learn the basics of book and magazine publishing

Together we will create:

  • A fun, safe, open environment in which to share your writing, hopes, concerns, and questions
  • Powerful opportunities for you to claim your space as a writer
  • A clear road map for continuing your work when you return home


  • Before March 1, 2016, early bird registration is $2750
  • After March 1, 2016, registration is $2950

What’s included:

  • Special writing exercises and activities from Thursday evening through Sunday at noon
  • A Thursday night gathering for cocktails, dinner, and—oh yes—a homework writing assignment (we’re going to work HARD while you’re here!)
  • A Friday night Storytelling by Firelight with Master Coach Michael Trotta of the Sagefire Institute, who will present each participant with a carved wooden Writer's Totem
  • Breakfast and lunch Friday, Saturday, and Sunday
  • A celebratory dinner Saturday night
  • A steady stream of beverages and yummy, quasi-healthy snacks (including my world-famous homemade granola bars; recipe included in goody bag), because ye shall judge a writer by the size of said writer’s expanding ass
  • My favorite writerly treats in aforementioned goody bag
  • A one-hour follow-up session with me to read and discuss a work-in-progress of your choice, because I know how easy it is to fall off track once you leave a workshop–and I know how to get you back on track 

How many in our tribe? I want this to be an intimate gathering around my kitchen table—or possibly my dining room table, if I’m feeling classy–so I’m capping registration at 8. Where is it? I’m in White Plains, New York, a half-hour train ride from New York City. Westchester Airport is about 20 minutes away. LaGuardia and JFK airports are a bit farther, but a doable cab ride. There are numerous lovely hotels ten minutes from my house. Details happily provided upon request. Got any questions? Email me and let’s figure it out.

Here I am with master life coach, storyteller, and carver Michael Trotta, and his writers’ owls.

Here I am with master life coach, storyteller, and carver Michael Trotta, and his writers’ owls.

About me


I’ve been a professional book editor since 1981, working as an executive editor at Scribners and Random House. In 2002, I ditched my suits and pantyhose for life working from home as a full-time freelance editor, writer, and ghostwriter, critiquing, creating, and editing proposals and manuscripts.

Although I’ve edited numerous bestselling authors such as Carrie Fisher, President Jimmy Carter, Dr. Dean Ornish, Dr. Judith Orloff, and others, my absolute favorite books to edit (and read) are memoirs. I’ve edited bestselling memoirs by Martha Beck (Expecting Adam and Leaving the Saints), Candice Bergen (A Fine Romance) and Donna Williams (Nobody Nowhere), as well as critically acclaimed memoirs by Boyd Varty (Cathedral of the Wild), Josh Hanagarne (World’s Strongest Librarian), Ana Forrest (Fierce Medicine), Susan Edsall (Into Thin Air), and many others. I’m currently assisting an FAA (Famous Anonymous Author) on her memoir as well as developing several book proposals for some incredible authors.

My own personal essays and articles have appeared in The New York Times,
The Huffington Post, Good HousekeepingSalon, Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, and Sky Magazine (Delta’s in-flight magazine) among others. My humor essays have been anthologized in Mothers Who ThinkCreme de la FemmeLife’s a Stitch, and A Friendly Game of Poker from Chicago Review Press. I’m also the coauthor with Rosalind Wiseman of Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads, optioned by Tina Fey (who turned the companion volume I edited, Queen Bees and Wannabes, into the movie “Mean Girls.”)

I’m also a Martha Beck Certified Master Coach. I most definitely bring my coaching into the work I do with writers, because Lord knows we’re all head cases. And I mean that in a loving and life-affirming way.

Let’s get on our butts and do this thing.

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Testimonials for Betsy’s Memoir Writing Retreat

“Alchemy. Sorcery. Magic.

All these things you performed this weekend at our retreat, and I am transformed. 

Someone said “grace.” That is a word I have always considered to be the highest compliment anyone can give or receive, and you, dear Betsy, embodied grace. You modeled it for us; you gave it as a gift, freely.

Your generosity was evident every moment, from the goody bags to the heaps of food, from arrival to departure. You nourished us and gave us what we needed to nourish ourselves.

I am overwhelmed by the thoughtfulness with which you did everything, untangling us when we got tangled, allowing all truths to come forward, revealing yourself to us as we peeled back our own thick layers of defense and felt safe enough to become uncloaked. In just three days.

If that isn’t magical, I’ll eat my hat. And yours.

Commissioning Michael to fashion our owls, those harbingers of all the goodness and wisdom to come, was a brilliant and savvy move, sister. I’m not usually a collector of amulets, but having this talisman has shifted something for me, and opened me further to the healing properties of touchstones. There’s a comfort in these charms, I now realize. They are hope incarnate. 

Note to self: add “hope” to the list of items I found in my goody bag.

Speaking of the goody bag, I now understand that the space pen I found inside is the symbol of unfettered writing, permission to write anything-anywhere-anytime, even if gravity has deserted me and I become unmoored, which happens more often than I like to admit.

Permission. Validation. Hope.

My writing cup runneth over, and you, dearest Betsy, are responsible for a significant bit of that. You filled it with love, and packed it with inspiration. You’ve unlocked something I’ve always suspected, but never dared speak its name. Writer. Author.Essayist. Creator.”

~Amy Steindler

Writing by day, storytelling by firelight at night.

Writing by day, storytelling by firelight at night.

“Betsy is a rare combination of Subject Matter Expert (the kind that can only emerge from a lifetime spent honing your craft in rarefied air), deft storyteller, and divine mom/earth mother who fosters connection and nurtures body, mind and soul with the most delicious fare between sessions of “write, or I’ll cut you” (just kidding!…sorta). Betsy’s workshop is a healing balm for whatever ails the writer.”

~Bay Rummel

“To say Betsy is a brilliant editor is simply too simple. She continues to amaze our writing group by her razor-sharp insight and empathetic and loving feedback. Her innate sensitivity towards others is nothing short of Saintliness.

Betsy’s workshop awakens the core of your thought process. You will emerge from her workshop writing from a depth deeper than ever before. Amaze yourself with the new layers and direction your voice has taken. Your story will be more honest than it has ever been before. Expect to be transformed. You are in the hands of a genius shaman.”

~Violetta Bitici

“Thank you so much for inviting me into this group. I really felt like the whole weekend helped to propel my writing forward in ways that I haven’t been able to do just by myself. It was exactly what I was looking for. Feedback from other writers, stretching myself and finding my voice in writing exercises, and grounded guidance from you. I heard confirmation that I write the way I speak, which is something that I strive for in my writing. The addition of the many gifts and resources, storytelling with Michael Trotta, and my wonderful owl were just icing on the cake. The kindness and generosity you displayed really were heartwarming. I wanted to hang out in your kitchen every day and soak up the humor and the love!”

~Felicia Ryan

“Do you aspire to be a published author? This isn’t just a workshop by a life coach who’s also a writer and editor, it’s a priceless experience full of information you’ll need to know. In addition to her extensive experience and expertise on the subject, Betsy is unbelievably gifted at helping writers bring the best out in their writing.

You can wait till you’re buying a copy of my book to sign up with her or you can jump in now before her workshops start selling out moments after they open.

Trust me. You will not get an experience like this from anyone else. Betsy’s one in a million. Do yourself and those you’ll help by telling your stories, a favor.”

~Genevieve Chase

If you pay before March 1, 2016, the total cost will be $2750.
If you pay after March 1, the total cost will be $2950.
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